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Thursday, August 30, 2012

Helping Others With Suicidal Problems

  Suicide,it's a very touchy and controversial subject. Some people are sensitive to that subject and some have a very negative attitude about it. I used to be both sensitive and negative about that subject. I felt bad for the people who thought about it or did it,but at the same time I felt that they could've just talked to somebody or worked out their issues before they just gave up. All of that has changed soon enough. I started to want to help them through it and recent experience has made me want to help them more.
  In late January of this year,I befriended a young man by the name of Kelsey Brown. He was funny,smart,cool,a music-lover,crazy, and creative;in fact,we had alot of similarities. He always had a way with words and definitely a way with the ladies. He also could keep a whole room full of people laughing. As far as i knew Kelsey was one of the coolest guys i ever met with no worries....or so I thought.
   During the summer,Kelsey and I started talking everyday and we ended up getting as close as brothers. In between that time, I got to know the real Kelsey who thought of himself to be worthless,very unattractive,not loved nor cared for and just the complete opposite of what I or anyone else thought that was good about him. He had a troubled life with painful childhood  memories that included being severely beaten by two uncles,being jumped by a whole neighborhood, being put in foster homes at age 13 by his family and etc. and because of that,it caused him to be suicidal. I was one of the few people who knew about it and also one of the few to help him with that. I talked him out of ending his life a few times and it helped and i also tried to persuade him to see a counselor for professional help,but unfortunately his pride wouldn't let him do it.
  As much as I talked him out of committing suicide and trying to help him get over his childhood,it didn't help as much as I thought it would. On July 31, I believe Kelsey decided that he was tired of putting up a front and letting the painful memories of the past and present take an emotional toll on him;so instead of coming to me for help and or me talking him out of it,kelsey committed suicide. It left me in a state of depression,sadness and frustration. It was hard for me to accept that my brother was gone just like that and i couldn't do anything about it. It also depressed me,because I only knew him for five and a half months and i lost him to suicide. That was the saddest last week of summer I EVER had.
  That whole experience made me want to speak out against suicide more and more. It made me want to talk to every individual who was suicidal or had thoughts about it. Most of the time,all you hear people say is "Why would you do that?", "You do realize your going to hell for that right?", "You're so weak and stupid for trying give up like that". I want to ask those people what good is that going to do by telling people who are like or worse than how Kelsey was that type of stuff. We should be trying to help them with their issues instead of bringing them down because of them.
   I've decided to help others with their suicidal problems more than i already have. As a person who has helped others with it,I feel that I need to speak out to others about it. Although I wasn't able to save Kelsey from his suicidal ways,I still feel encouraged to keep helping those with the same problems he had. So, I believe before anyone goes judging a person who has suicidal problems,they should try to get to know why they're that way and help them through it. Besides,you could end up saving a life.

2 comments:

  1. Brandon-

    I had a friend I knew in High School commit suicide. The summer of my junior year as well in fact. I understand your helplessness- and I appreciate you deciding that you should do something about it. The number of people who decide to do that is astounding! And think about the numbers of people who attempt it, or think about it! Believe that Kelsey was put in your life for a reason and be at peace with the fact that you did what you could do. Please let me know if there is anything we, as a class, can do to help your efforts!

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  2. Oh really,that's sad to hear you had a friend to commit suicide also. Thanks for understanding my wanting to help people with their suicidal issues,the number of people who commit suicide or think about it is very astounding like you said. That's why I
    I feel the need to help them try to get out of that suicidal state and live life. Also,I'm starting to accept it slowly but surely that I did all i could to help Kelsey. And even though i only knew him for five and a half months,he definitely left a great impact on my life. And Thanks,i'll let you know if there's anything I need help with!

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